The Rules for Setting up Your Profile
Depending on the platform you’re using (some allow for more text than others), write a specific and concrete profile. Here is a link to one that worked really well for me (this was on Match.com), but yours has to work really well for you. I’m primarily a humor writer, so I wanted to showcase that skillset because it’s really important to me in a partnership. Try to think about what’s essential to you. Is it faith? Go with that. Is it family? Make that clear. Is it engaging in healthy and vigorous debate? Etc.
Some tips: Avoid cliches. No “fun-loving,” no “seizing the day,” no “living life to the fullest,” no “up for adventures,” etc. Go easy on the exclamation points. Be brutally honest and entirely direct and transparent. If your goal is to be married, then SAY it. If you’re not into traveling, SHARE that. If you hate exercising, put it right in your profile. If you’re a feminist, by all means own it; feminism is a FANTASTIC weeder-outer! Same for being “demisexual” (I address this in the video).No goofy profile pics. No crazy filters. No bunny ears. No “I’m down for anything” poses or outfits (unless you are, but in that case I bet you’re not in this group). I would post no more than 5 pictures, and they should realistically look exactly how you look right now. At least one should be a fairly closeup of your face. Remember that it’s far more powerful to show up on a date looking better than you did in your pics. This destabilizes men because they’re used to the opposite, lol.
A primary rule of effective rhetoric: Don’t tell people what or what not to do; tell them what YOU are going to do or not do. Example: Don’t write something like this in your profile: “You need to treat me like a queen, appreciate me when I look like a troll, and make me laugh.” INSTEAD, write something like this: “I’m a feminist who doesn’t mind having a door held for me, I’m a hard-negative on Botox, and I believe sense of humor trumps everything else.”
More here soon! :)
